WHY ASK LIFE TO WAIT?

by Maralis Ruiz

Dear Life, please hold, I'm waiting....

“The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”

-Louise Boon

Take a moment to bring to mind the most joyous, happiest, successful memorable experiences. Now think, what if you had never taken a chance? What if you would have said, "I could, might, or should do it tomorrow/next week/next year, when I x,y,z..."? Can you imagine if you had asked life to wait.

Picture it: ("Sicily, 1942..." j/k) This memorable and wonderful experience was about to to happen to and or for you and you said, "wait... I will wait... I am afraid... I don't have - - - ." And just like that, said moment never happened. What a terrible thing that would be!

When we don't trust in ourselves, in our own intuition which by the way, everyone has, we ask life to wait. I believe in divine orchestration and divine timing. I think that when Spirit places something on our heart, mind, or spirit, we are given an opportunity to say yes, or to ask life to wait. I'm an optimist but also a realist. I know that some things are simply not feasible at given times. But there is a bigger message.

Do not allow fear to create a timestamp on your life that is nested under the theme of regret. Instead of saying you could have, maybe you can. Maybe there are more paths than one to that which you seek and you have to pivot or think outside of the box. Instead of saying you might have, what if the thing that makes you the most nervous is the thing that could change your life for the better? The truth is we never know until we try. Life will always be filled with risks, and some risks are worth taking. When we fall face down after a choice we have made, we dust ourselves off, heal the wounds, and choose differently the next time. Even in that scenario, we didn't lose. We learned what not to do next time. And the worst of these, I believe, is "I should have." When you say this phrase, I have found it often means that your intuition was speaking to you, you had clear guidance, the path was open, but something stopped you. That's the one that stays with you a very, very long time.

My invitation to pause and contemplate. Are you asking life to wait because you are afraid? Are you asking life to wait because you are envisioning the worst case scenario? Even for quick decisions, can you drop into your heart and your gut? Can you choose from that place? Can you trust yourself more? It IS YOUR life, after all. Can you be willing to believe the odds are in your favor and bet on yourself? What if the most spectacular outcome awaits? Do you want to be saying to yourself in the future: "I could have, might have, should have"? Be courageous and have faith.

Where or how have you been asking life to wait?